Parenting a Parent During Covid19 Pandemic
Everyone agrees the elderly and the older adult populations rate highest for serious complications from the Covid19 (corona) virus creating challenging for parenting a parent during this pandemic. Many adult children understand this and are trying to protect their parents from the illness. Many adult children are also facing parents who are not cooperating in following proper safety rules and regulations.
How to parent a parent?
Do not assume the parent completely understands the situation. Explain clearly how contagious Covid19 is and explain the risk to their age group. This is the time to empathize with their feelings of loneliness and isolation. Assure your parents you will be calling every day and encourage the grandchildren to do so also. Try to teach them to use zoom or video calling so they can see their family members face to face.
Your parent staying home is the most important and effective way your parent will stay safe. However, it is up to you to make sure parents have all their needs being met even when not venturing out to stores, doctor appointments, and pharmacies. It is often challenging for older adults to navigate shopping online and managing the medical system virtually. You will therefore need to research and organize shopping and health management during this time.
Most communities and health funds are stating clearly their hours and delivery service. Having this information and telling your parents it is taken care of, will go a long way to keeping the parent compliant with the stay at home order.
If things are not going as smoothly as stores and health funds are promising, be prepared to shop for your parents for the most important necessaries. If you do not live near your parent, see if you can find “angels” in their community that are helping the elderly at this time.
If a parent continues to go out in public he/she must:
1. Wear mask
2. Wear gloves
3. Keep hands away from face
4. Wash hands thoroughly after removing their gloves
Remember there is only so much you can do to protect your parent from Covid 19. If a parent is not cooperative, express your disapproval strongly. Ultimately, each person makes their own decision in these matters.
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I would like to also add my compliments, you exceeded my already very high expectations. You can certainly send other schools our way for a recommendation.
-Mr. E. Naiman
Dear Dr. Eliana words simply cannot express how much you have done for all of us and so many others in keeping us informed, calming anxieties, and being such a wonderful and patient resource through such a difficult time. Wishing you much bracha and hatzlacha in the merit of all the countless mitzvot u have done to help so many through these trying times; mikol halev, ein milim and thanks so so much .
Gap Year Program Staff
Hello Dr. Aaron. I cannot thank you enough for providing not only crucial information but a framework that gave us stability and allowed us to function (instead of descending into chaos, which undoubtedly would have happened, if not for you). At the risk of waxing dramatic, I will tell you that when I think of what you've done these past couple of months, what comes to mind is Rav Yohanan Ben Zakai asking Vespasian to give him Yavneh ve-Hakhameha, thus saving the entire enterprise of Talmud...
I just wanted to say I think Dr. Eliana is one of the most rationale people providing the public with current information. I have no idea how I came across your Facebook page but I love what you say, just heard the one about reopening shuls, and the way you present it. clear, concise and factual. I work in Toronto on COVID 19 and just wanted to let you know that you are doing a fantastic job. I think here there are community doctors putting out information and I have told them they are too...
I just wanted to thank you very much for that presentation. Very thorough and certainly helped create important and necessary focus. Very much appreciated.
Gap Year Program Staff
First of all, thank you for that incredibly informative call. Really got us thinking about all the issues we need to consider for next year. Thank you in general for being available to all of us on the group. We have benefited so much from your wisdom and advice over the past few weeks.
Head of Gap Year Program
I just wanted to thank you for all your guidance and advice you're are providing the yeshivot and midreshot. I'm the Director of a boys program and although I'm sure you've heard it many times already, your role has been indispensable in getting us all through this.
Head of Gap Year Program